Part I. SINGLEMOTHERHOOD: POVERTY, WAR, PESTILENCE, DEATH, DESTRUCTION, AND THE END OF WESTERN CIVILIZATION


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PART I: POVERTY – UNBEARABLE COSTS OF SINGLE MOTHERHOOD FOR PROFIT

While reading this column, I would like for you to realized that 65% to 95% of ALL, EVERY SINGLE ONE of the  ills and expenses of our country, poverty, crime, welfare, runaway education and medical expenses, are all products of the rapidly growing number of voluntarily single mothers.   These are single mothers who are being bought and paid for to be Welfare voters with your tax dollars.

As I read the small Denison, Texas newspaper this morning, I was struck by a statement that I hadn’t heard in a while, “long slippery slope”. On the same page as that article was another about the Texas Budget for the next two years, a biennium. The three major concerns for the biennium in the expected budget shortfall of $27 billion dollars are:
1. Increased education costs for the 153,000 new public school students expected;
2. Medicare and Medicaid with our current spike in health care costs; and
3. Services to the poor.

We are now speeding rapidly towards the crash at the bottom of that long slope. Nearly all of our budget overruns have a single commonality, the government incentivizing and even forcing single motherhood upon our country. We can all point at the incentives. These numerous incentives account for the greatest increase in single motherhood in the past 40 years. However, single motherhood has become a trap of immense proportions.

We have an overwhelming number of single mothers who chose this condition actively as a lifestyle. There was never any causative abuse or adultery by any spouse. There is a small fraction of single mothers who are and always have been single out of various real life tragedies. And, of course, widows are widows and should not ever be mixed in single mother discussions with the voluntary single mothers.

Promoting single motherhood is promoting poverty of not just the voluntarily and singularly stupid single mothers, but of all of our country and to varying extents to which feminists have exported their onerous policies to the rest of the world, all of the inhabitants of this globe.

We are going to have to return personal accountability to women for their own actions, good or bad. This is as we have always done to men, in spite of the efforts of feminists to revise history to say that men and marriage is bad and rarely of any special benefit. Feminist have gone to great lengths to rewrite history to fit the myths upon which they base their political ideology of self-aggrandizement at the expense of children, other women, and all men. Feminism has been a popular ideology in some of our power elite circles as a means to make greater inroads into our personal liberties, freedoms, and, of course, our wealth.

Our politicians, while silencing any opposing opinions or real public discourse have charted a course where we reward and incentivize women to become Whores of the State. Gratefully, we still have a large number of women who have maintained personal integrity and have refused to fall into the easy money trap of welfare, poverty, abuse, and destruction of their own children. It is a trap that our media elites have conspired to help falsely sell with their massive propaganda machines churning out ‘entertainment’ fantasies of successful, have it all single women and of how marriage is only another name for abuse. The reality is a far cry from the message sent by our media and our politicians.

This course charted by politicians and power elites among our judiciary have only been able to do so with access to the public coffers. The coffers are running dry.

Since it is statistically likely that every extended family in America has experienced a “No Fault” divorce, we all recognize that in massively disproportionate numbers women are the ones who are destroying the American Families and it is not the men who are abandoning their family and children. If a woman files a ‘No Fault’ divorce she is more likely to be guaranteed control of the children and all, if not most, of the current assets of the union and the man’s future income, sometimes for decades to come. And, this foolishly filing woman is guaranteed to have the bills resulting from her failure of responsibility to be paid by all of the rest of us. This common and faithless woman is allowed to destroy her family and her children’s lives for transient ‘feelings’ with no real fault by her spouse. In fact, she is rewarded for doing just this.

It is relatively rare that a woman filing for “No Fault” divorce is given an equal or greater share of the debt. The innocent, “No Fault” husband, generally gets the lion’s share of the debt while being forced to subsidize the unwanted loss of his children to some boyfriend, lesbian lover, or a new stepdad. The faithful dad who was found by a court of law to have ‘No Fault’ is forced, through a wrong done by his spouse, not him, into poverty, is criminalized, and even jailed for not performing court ordered impossibilities at the behest of the woman. We have all seen this on an almost daily basis. It is becoming so blasé as to be considered a part of life for men such as puberty or male pattern baldness.   To lighten this message, here is a short and very entertaining video that accurately depicts what is done to our responsible to disincentivize marriage and responsible fatherhood.   It is a great study in Risk to Reward: 

The forcing of single motherhood has, thankfully, been so offensive that even the more radical liberals have shied away from the use of bizarrely defined abuse claims to force women to divorce or lose access to their own children. This can be seen in such extreme instances as considering a woman abused who is raising a child in home where the husband worked, earned the money, and kept the checkbook with the wife’s permission. The husband, without the wife objecting, keeping the checkbook was considered so abusive that a Mass. caseworker told the woman to divorce her husband or lose their child. The young couple was jailed when they refused to turn the child over to the State’s foster system after the faithful young mother refused to divorce or separate from her checkbook balancing, working husband. These ‘forced’ divorces are minimal in number. The very design behind these bizarre definitions of abuse and demands to remove the fathers was to be a stick to force divorce and single motherhood where the false carrot of child support and welfare did not work to destroy a family.

When one begins to breakdown the increased education expenses, it is found that smaller classrooms are needed (with the increase in teachers and buildings) because of the lack of discipline of the overwhelming percentage of children coming from single mother homes.  If there is any doubt these children are a problem, the statistics provided later in this article will answer that doubt.  From the increase in budget for the children in general, the special ‘prison’ campuses, campuses for serious offenders bringing weapons, drugs or violence onto campuses, create massive funding needs well beyond what is provided to children from stable two bio-parent homes.

The majority of single mother homes are those incentivized by tax funds and lending programs forced upon our financial industry to provide lifestyles to single mothers, these women cannot afford on their own, at the expense of the general market.  And, as shown with the single example of impact on schools and then extrapolate the continued problems into adulthood with increases police, court, and prison costs, we can begin to see the multiplication of costs to our society and economy in just this one tiny arena of all the massive arenas affected by the subsidizing of single mother homes.

A single mother can be guaranteed a home, income, health care, day care, food, utilities, and even a big screen TV, if she will either have a child out of wedlock or divorce the father of her children. Plus as an added incentive, the woman can use any number of programs to misuse, abuse, and essentially enslave a man for his wages with the backing of law enforcement guns and jails. A single mother can pull the strings on her new toy, the father of her children, while she steals the father from the children’s lives. Father presence is the singularly most important factor in children becoming healthy, happy, and productive citizens. The children’s futures and fortunes are being stolen by these feckless women.

It is these same faithless and unfit mothers who are the most vocal in their screams that the man step up to the plate and do his duty to support his children. Most of the support goes to mommy’s Narcissism or new sexual adventures either in clothes, flashy car, cosmetics, or direct payments to boyfriends for hot, temporary, transient sex. It has been repeatedly reported for decades that Section 8 housing administrators for welfare mothers tell the private landlords that the tenant single moms being subsidized by our tax dollars can have a “dozen pair of men’s shoes under the bed each night, but no man’s clothes in the closet”. Translated, this means she is subsidized as long as she is either a skank or a whore, but she will lose her benefits if she has a stable relationship with a single man or with the father of any of her children.

Section 8 is funded by our Social Security system. Most of the women abusing these Social Security programs have never worked or worked for such a minimal time as to be nothing more than pure leeches upon our economy. We are funding their perversions. The same politicians who ensure these payments for dependency voters are the ones who like to falsely claim that welfare was ‘fixed’ with the Clinton’s welfare reform package.   These dependency creating politicians would have the public believe it is the seniors who worked all their lives who are the ones at fault for the Social Security expense overruns.

All the Clinton’s welfare reform did was to shift the bookkeeping so that it showed the fathers of these welfare children were responsible for the mother’s benefits. This happens when the father was never allowed any say in the raising, care, or expense of his children. In fact, the father is charged these debts when the situation was forced upon him when he was more than ready willing and able to care for his children without government funding. Shifting tens and hundreds of billions of dollars of welfare debt to fathers who already earn below poverty wages was just a trick to fool the rest of us who still have to pay on this growing expense.   It was a bookkeeping trick putting the debt on those who cannot pay, while still writing the same or larger checks for the same problem that was not fixed.

There was never a problem of any serious proportion of fathers abandoning children and wives, until the government created the problem,  such that the government needed to intrude and force men to support families. The government tore the families and the men apart and then increased the expenses, called obligations, upon only the man while providing up to 72 different means tested welfare programs to single mothers and their children. These impoverished men only have the Salvation Army to turn to for food and shelter. The Salvation Army has limited capacity and many men receive no support at all, except for what they find under a bridge or overpass.

And, a little known fact is that the vast majority of fathers who are being charged for the welfare payments to the mother of their children are themselves living below poverty levels. If welfare was not so gender biased the majority of men the Federal government claims owes this money, would themselves be on welfare.

Single mothers raised 95% of all of those who are either in prison or receiving treatments for drug addiction. Single motherhood is single handedly funding the drug cartels and all of the narco wars around the world, including Afghanistan. And, our government incentivized more of these ‘drug addict factories’ we call single mothers.

A like figure of 95% single mother raised applies to women arrested for prostitution. It is expected this number is similar for male prostitutes.

Young women, generally obese, are regularly overheard in grocery store lines boasting of the many ways and scams they have used to turn welfare and children’s food benefits into money for their drugs, alcohol, boyfriends, and trips to the casinos.

Our mortgage industry collapsed under the weight of our lenders being forced (read taxed) into social lending to mainly single women for the purchase of grand homes well above the real purchase ability of these women. Women were given preference for sub-prime loans where a woman with a $30,000/ year income could buy a $300,000, $400,000 or even a $500,000 home. The monthly payments for the first few years would be less than the interest alone. The notes would quickly exceed the value of the home as un-charged, and un-paid interest was added to the principle. A $300,000 home in five years of $700 payments could increase the note principle to $320,000 or higher. At the end of the five years the payments suddenly jump from the $700 range to over $3,000 per month. That is greater than the $30,000 income the woman earned, not counting her tax free child support income she spends and daddy gets taxed on.

In early 2008, before the recognized financial crises and collapse of our mortgage markets, research showed the vast majority of all foreclosures were a direct result of divorce. The same commonality was found in our consumer credit industry. Well over 75% of the losses to our consumer credit industry were a direct result of divorce. Yet, both industries have remained unusually quiet on the bankrupting of their industries to help incentivize and support the growth of single motherhood. This shows that not only public tax monies, but forced private losses of income and profit were used to incentivize single motherhood.

Women were buying homes well beyond their means to give the appearance, at great societal costs, that women could have it all without a man. Ironically, most income tax is paid by men who create whole industries to keep others employed. We take from those most able to grow our economy and give the resources to those who would waste the wealth of others, voluntarily single mothers.

And the Family Law courts, in divorce, are knowingly encouraging and allowing the passing on of personal debt to the private companies by assigning nearly all debts, generally incurred by the wife, to the father. After Dad is bankrupted, then the companies raise rates and charges to recover the losses which are in effect another method of taxing all of the rest of us for the policy of incentivizing Narcissistic Divorce by women.

Our excesses in family policies have taken their toll. In every single category of public and private expense we can account for negative and unnecessary effects of our family destructive policies that have experimented and clearly failed with creation of ‘modern’ families. These modern families can only thrive with massive infusions of money from public and private coffers. We have run out of money and these tens of millions of families are still just as destroyed.

The singular heart of this grandiose new experiment in creating a dole dependent voting bloc, or, in the alternative felons with no voting rights at all, has been No Fault Divorce. The massive rise in welfare mom headed households (one of the categories of households now categorized as a ‘Modern Family’) accounts for 90+% of all welfare households.

Single mother households must, generally, be funded by mainly men. The majority of taxes from which our money flows from the population, to the coffers of government and on to the single mother homes are paid by men. Child support is a tax on men for having children if the woman wants to go play with someone else, irrespective of costs in money or the lives of their children.

A woman can chose to divorce and go on welfare over the objections of the man. He then becomes liable for her personal and financial choices while having to maintain a separate home. If he is unable to meet the obligations imposed on him through no fault or choice of his own, he is criminalized at great loss to our society and economy and greater expense to his children for generations to come and massively greater relative expense to our coffers. The man is no longer a productive citizen, supporting and caring for his own children in the environment most likely to create a new generation of good citizens, father raised children. He is now living in a jail at a greater monthly cost to our budgets than his child support obligation or the targeted taxation of a father for the welfare choices of a faithless and fickle woman.

Single mother households beget single mother households.

50% of single mothers are below the poverty line; their children are 6 times more likely to be in poverty than children with married parents. Chuck Colson, “How Shall We Live”, Tyndale House.

85% of homeless families are single mother families. Barry H. Waldman and Stephen P. Perlman, “Homeless Children With Disabilities, “The Exceptional Parent, June 1, 2008 (American Academy of Developmental Medicine and Dentistry

90% of welfare recipients are single mothers. Jason DeParle, “Raising Kevion”, New York Times, Aug. 22, 2004

There were 3 million single mothers in 1970 and 10 million in 2003. U.S. Census, Table FM-2, All Parent/Child Situations, by Type, Race, and Hispanic origin of Householder, 1970 to 2003

Single mothers begat feral (criminal) children as adults or dependent children with addictions and disorders that negatively impact our society.

Single mother dominated filings in our courts account for upwards of 85% of our judicial budget when their issues clog our courts with false allegations, divorces, custody, visitation, juvenile, and crimes un-proportionately committed by adult children of single mothers. Add to this list the many other issues revolving around stealing the fathers away from the their children when it has been shown the greatest commonality for negative impact on children as adults is being raised in a single mother house and the greatest commonality for constructive citizenship has been where the children are raised in bio-father home, with or without the mother.

Children of single mothers are a net negative on our society with lowered education and income levels and greatly increased chance of the daughters of these homes following in the faithless and leeching single mother who raised them and taught them dependency life values.

Single mothers turn their children into criminals who in turn clog our courts on the criminal side of our courts.

In March 2003 one Texas Judge reported that 85% of all Texans who see the court see them through Family Law.

About February, 2004, The Corpus Christi Caller Times had a front page story that declared a Texas Judiciary funded survey had found that 85% of all Texans, and 87% of the citizens of Corpus Christi believed the courts made decisions based on money, sex, politics, and friendship over facts, rules, and law. It seems that even the winners in Family Law are frightened of the corruption. But this is a topic for many other articles besides this one.

“The strongest predictor of whether a person will end up in prison, is that they were raised by a single parent”. C.C. Harper and S.S. McLanahan, “Father Absence and Youth Incarceration”, Paper presented at the Annual Meeting of the American Sociological Assoc., San Francisco, CA, 1998

In 1996, 70% of inmates in state juvenile detention centers serving long sentences, were raised by single mothers. Wade Horn, “Why There Is No Substitute For Parents”, IMPRIMIS 26, NO.6, June, 1997

72% of juvenile murderers and 60% of rapists came from SINGLE MOTHER HOMES. Chuck Colson, “How Shall We Live?” Tyndale House , 2004, p.323

“After controlling for single motherhood, the difference between black and white crime rates disappeared.” Progressive Policy Institute, 1990, quoted by David Blankenhorn, “Fatherless America: Confronting Our Most Urgent Social Problem,” New York, Harper Perennial, 1996, p.31

“(I)n a recent study by the Baltimore-based Annie E. Casey Foundation. Comparing statistics for its Kids Count report, the organization reported that Detroit ranks No.1 in unmarried births among the nations’ 50 largest cities. Of the 16,729 babies born in Detroit in 1997, 13,574 were black, 1,679 were white and 817 were Hispanic. Seventy-one percent were born to unmarried mothers. This compared with a state average of 33 percent and a 50-city average of 43 percent.”

Detroit is the worst offender on our list of America’s most dangerous cities, thanks to a staggering rate of 1,220 violent crimes committed per 100,000. ”

“Girls raised without fathers are more sexually promiscuous, and more likely to end up divorced.” Wade Horn, “Why There Is No Substitute For Parents”, IMPRIMIS 26, No.6, June, 1997

70% of teen births occur to girls in single mother homes. David T. Lykken, “Reconstructing Fathers”, American Psychologist 55, 681,681, 2000

86% of American teen births are out of wedlock. Dr. David Popenoe, “The Future of Marriage In America”, Rutgers Univ., The National Marriage Project, 2007

“America has more than twice as many teenage births as other developed nations.” Isabel V.Sawhill, to House Committee on Ways and Means, Subcommittee on Human Resources, June 29, 1999

There are more than 400,000 teen births annually in the US, most of them to unmarried mothers on welfare.
National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy.

The public cost of births to teens 17 and younger is estimated at $7.6 BILLION per year. The children are more likely to be in foster care, less likely to graduate from high school, daughters are more likely to have teen births themselves, and sons are more likely to be incarcerated. Saul Hoffman, Univ. of Delaware.

70% of drop-outs, and 70% of teen suicides come from single mother homes. Wade Horn, “Why There Is No Substitute For Parents,” IMPRIMIS 26, N0. 6, June 1997

70% of runaways, 70% of juvenile delinquents, and 70% of Child murderers, come from single mother homes. Richard E. Redding, “It’s Really About Sex”, Duke Univ. Journal of Gender Law and Policy, Jan.1, 2008

63% of all youth suicides,
70% of all teen pregnancies,
71% of all adolescent chemical/substance abusers,
80% of all prison inmates, and
90% of all homeless and runaway children, came from single mother homes.
Bob Ray Sanders, “Hey Y’all, Let’s Fill The Hall (Of Fame), Ft. Worth Star Telegram, Oct.28,2007
Mona Charen, “More Good News Than Bad?”, Washington Times, Mar.16, 2001 (citing Bill Bennett, “The Index of Leading Cultural Indicators: American society at the end of the 20th Century., New York, Broadway Books, 1994)

Children brought up in single mother homes are:
5 times more likely to commit suicide,
9 times more likely to drop out of high school,
10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances,
14 times more likely to commit rape,
20 times more likely to end up in prison,
32 times more likely to run away from home.
Chuck Eddy, “The Daddy Shady Show”, Village Voice, Dec. 31, 2002

600,000 out of wedlock births in 1979. Patrick Fagan and William H.G.Fitzgerald, “Why Serious Welfare Reform Must Include Serious Adoption Reform. Heritage Foundation Reports, July 27, 1995

In 2003, there were 1.5 Million unwed births, and less than 1% were put up for adoption. Fagan and Fitzgerald (above)

Less than 1% of children born to never married women were placed for adoption from 1989 to 1995. U.S. DHHS, Child Welfare Information Gateway, “Voluntary Relinquishment For Adoption, Numbers and trends, 2005

Only 4% of college graduates have illegitimate children, and only 16% of college graduates get divorced, compared to 46% of high school dropouts, who marry in smaller numbers to begin with. Dr. David Popenoe, “The Future Of Marriage In America; “The Frayed Knot – Marriage in America”, The Economist, May 26, 2007

50% of single mothers are below the poverty line, their children are 6 times more likely to be in poverty than children with married parents. Chuck Colson, “How Shall We Live”, Tyndale House.

85% of homeless families are single mother families. Barry H. Waldman and Stephen P. Perlman, “Homeless Children With Disabilities, “ The Exceptional Parent, June 1, 2008 (American Academy of Developmental Medicine and Dentistry

We can no longer afford the massive waste of funds to reward the bad women for the destruction of our children and our economy. As we see the funding disappear before our very eyes for this grand experiment in turning our voters into dependency voters we see the many un-Constitutional mechanisms used to remove fathers and destroy children are being turned upon women.

We will now begin to see laws that no longer reward irresponsible birthing. We will begin to see welfare models change from single mother advocacy to a dual bio-parent advocacy. Of course, the liberal feminist element will work at derailing this and sending us down very expensive dead end directions with ‘father-like’ two adult households where lesbian lovers and drug dealing boyfriends and paying johns become the temporary definition of ‘two parent’ households. But, as forced by economy, we will be pushed back to the most efficient, most stable, and most safe household of all time, a two bio-parent, married man and woman home. We will then return to raising strong and productive citizens, both men and women. We no longer have the cash to subsidize anything else. The liberals may continue to try to expand the destruction of the traditional family, but in times of trial and struggle, humanity always returns to the most efficient of lifestyles, a two biological parent household.

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  1. david bambic

     /  January 13, 2011

    this is just like the cottage ind .in il cook county mostly pay to play the best gals and cild reps can steal from families ? and have absolute ammunity from the court and a min 10yrs you can pay for it ?they just past the statue in 2010 in effect 2011they have a great thing going here 30 plus years and still going ?

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  2. The political discourse throughout the western world is from policies developed from post world I and II material objectives and doctrine’s of necessity. In an effort to curtail fertility rates, policies were developed along with various state formed agencies. All innocently sold to us under the United nations/federated umbrella stemming from that house rented by Rockerfellers to the world we now commonly call that the United nations in NY.

    Their manifesto is not much unlike that of the Marxist communist manifesto, if not word for word certainly a parody of it. China took the policy to heart and through the power of state forced limited fertility. As with other continents who are subject to different forms of policies, people abuse, social engineering or mass experimentation. The west followed the model of over indulgence, supplanting the idea of sopophism and it’s inherent mollycoddling of personal psyches. Reinforcing an individuals world view to fit a rose tinted lense over reality and certainly one that is devoid of the nature of all things, including history.

    With a similarly created ruling administrative mindset cowering or hesitating to enforce it’s mandate, instead creating boondoggle after boondoggle, with accompanying laws, Article III type tribunals, corresponding state statutes and more interestingly a substitute legal system that is administrative in it’s capacity. It is often interesting to remark on the daily output of such places as state county family court where these policies are most evident and directed. Most remarkable is that after millions of divorces each is classed as an individual experience tailored to suit the litigants wealth status and more importantly to reinforce a strange ideology. The policy of Mommy gets the kids and the stability of legal standing for their former divided assests, the daddy gets the invoice for all the litigation and serfdomship he is able to withstand before folding to the onslaught.

    We also have created a just as well developed industry not akin to any global corporation and with a profit margin that dwarfs even many a multinational. This is nothing other than understanding and presenting human nature in terms of legal processing to the public again as an hegelian substitutue. Attorneys are probably the most socially isolated and autistic of the administrative group, with something akin to a thick skin for cause and effect, most certainly not shy of taking money for doing it. Historically a great driver of many a nefarious treasonous act, a few coins of silver. We may often if we are regimented enough to sit through a judges career and note that perhaps a decade or so ago acting in their administrative capacity they were condemning children to suffer custody issues, sole custody and child abuse. Performing their daily mandate of parendectomy with great political skill and judicial power and the help of an entourage of growing accepted professionals who similarly are charged or ideologically based individuals.

    Yet also personally untouched by the presence of the same teenagers so condemned and expected to turn up in their juvenile or criminal courts, no relationship whatsoever!, not heir fault in their wise judicial capacity to prevent future business. Not withstanding the wealth of studies that prove a rather sad outcome for many children, but also demographically the mothers. Perhaps it is a judicial morsel for them to ignore their own futures and stability for a few decades of partying without responsibility. While males often observe the policy or orders to curtail interaction with both their former spouses or girlfriends and children by decree or by the order’s readily available to ensure the male component of a former family is removed or limited of influence. Certainly and by a long margin in favor of the states position by hook or by judicial crook. With such a degree of force that possibly 90% of male incarceration is related to these courts adjudications and decrees. We cannot but assume either the government, so called independent judiciary or state is woefully incompetent for the position or there is something extremely and fundamentally uncomfortable about these organizations that present themselves in our midst.

    It is said that the Boston Irish, the indigenous and other socially innocent abstract groups or classes have nothing in their experience as to what is to come, but the fundamental issue comes to the policy which is effectively as in war. To separate the males from the females by whatever means necessary and harvest those crops for whatever nefarious purpose they are deemed fit. As it is in the methods social or otherwise to curtail fertility with it’s inherent and expected dystopian ideology. We certainly need the most dysfunctional to enhance the political enterprize we now see unfolding before us. We may individually present accepted treatise and accumulated knowledge to state our position, yet all to no avail. We wonder why !, enquiring minds need to know.

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  3. Greg M

     /  January 19, 2011

    The question is, why have we not got our rights back yet? I have been following this and active politically and trying with all my spare time as I know others are. Why have we not gotten our rights back when we can make a good argument of this? My son is growing up without a Dad with an abusive bully boyfriend my ex is living with. I am not even allowed his report card!!! I did nothing to deserve this, never convicted even though she tried hard to put me away.

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    • thepatriotdad

       /  January 24, 2011

      Greg M

      You are one of the tens of millions who have been abused by our courts and governments. If even one in ten of us work at any level and to any degree at all, we can change this horrendous situation overnight. If one in a thousand dedicated their life to education and change in this area, we would have a massive movement.

      Yet, we can not organize well enough to provide a vocal bloc vote against individual politicians or parties that are openly abusive of us. Until we can work at boycotting the worst offenders the rest will change their tune. We get bogged down with arguing about such idiocies as “Well, the Republicans did it too” or “If we vote Democrat the leadership will begin to pander to us”. Until we can put partisanship aside we are just more dead meat, not dead beat.

      Stan

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  4. bfoot

     /  June 7, 2012

    Who is wrote this article? This is the biggest line of bullshit I have read in a long time. All single moms choose this lifestyle, they are all section 8 and government whores? What about the single mom that literally had to flee from her abusive husband with her child and what she could fit in the car. What about the single mom that gave up a career and sold a home to stay home and take care of her new husbands three small children, only to find out that this man was truly a monster and had no more interest in her, or his own children, or the child they had together? It’s better to stay with a man that berates you and your child inflicts endless amounts of unwarranted rage. So the woman does what she must do, decides to go back to college for nursing so she can support herself and her child. At the same time dealing with a sadistic ex husband and his attorney who are hell bent on depleting the last of her financial resources, whether they be for future financial security or college or living expenses. Add to that a soon to be ex husband who makes just under 13,000 a month and still can’t follow the judges orders for the minimal amount that was ordered for child support and alimony so this woman can get through nursing school and provide for herself. Add to that, that in the meantime he borrowed all the equity in the home
    leaving absolutely nothing for the home they both worked for. Unless, I suppose you consider a stay at home mom of four not an equal contributor to the family. That is how my husband treated me, like I was not equal to him because my name was not on the paycheck. In that regard he was also able to make all the financial decisions. If that meant we live paycheck to paycheck to make the payments on his harley, so be it. That also entitled him to take out thousands of dollars of loans behind my back, for things such as 5,000 machine guns, etc.. My soon to be ex husband acquired about 50,000 of personal toys during our marriage, and I got a haircut. An now, I am left with a young child to take care of by myself, while figuring out how the hell to keep a roof over our head and go to college full time. And as I said before, while he and his attorney, through their best efforts seek to drain my young daughter and I of the last of our financial resources. And no,
    this man had no interest in his young daughter while she lived in his home, nor any interest in her after she was no longer in his home. It is only since the divorce process started that this man is ‘ being kept from his daughter.’ He never had much interest in her, nor does he now. Now she is just a pawn in his game. So fuck this article and the person that wrote it.

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    • thepatriotdad

       /  September 9, 2012

      Typical response of a probably guilty woman. I went to great lengths to state that I was talking about the voluntarily single with no real abuse or adultery, so you attack me because you are dumped on. You were dumped on because so many women have been so abusive of the law, the fathers of their children, and, yes, even more cruelly abusive to their own children. How many times did you stand up to the women you know to have been abusive of the courts, children, and husband? I would win if I bet. You are only concerned about your self. If you could not afford your children, then you should not have had them. You chose the father of your children. Your children are half their dad. If you hate their father, then you hate at least 50% of your children. Every time you open your mouth about the resentment you have for the children’s father, you tell them you resent them. Be grateful for your child at any cost, or give her up to the person who at least has the resources to keep her safe, warm, and well-fed. You are showing the strongest of female traits, narcissistic, self-aggrandizement. You made your bed, you sleep in it. Grow up, get responsible. You chose the person who you chose to impregnate you. Quit being a deadbeat sponge. Get a life, help someone else. The last two people I assisted with their children and the problems of corrupt courts and judges was a woman. Can you help a man you aren’t sleeping with? No you can’t.

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      • bfoot

         /  September 10, 2012

        You clearly have asshole personality disorder.

      • thepatriotdad

         /  September 11, 2012

        It seems my writing has struck a painful note. Did the mirror of my words show you yourself?

        People who insult, insult because they know they are wrong. People insult others when facts expose them for what they really are.

        The article covers a sad portion of the human condition, laziness, greed, and sefl-centeredness at the expense of children, country, and your self.

        The more you feel a need to insult me, the more you tell me I am right on the target as to what you know about yourself.

        You can change, but first, like any addict, you must first admit to yourself, then to others your addiction.

      • bfoot

         /  September 11, 2012

        No, buddy. You don’t know the first thing about me or my circumstances. A single mom who is going to college full time for nursing isn’t a sponge, as you say, or now suffering from some perilous addiction. I am a hard working mom making all the efforts to get on my feet and get the necessary tools to provide more than a decent living for myself and my daughter, and contribute to community and society as a whole. I did not have children I could not afford. I happened to marry a man who was too emotionally immature and selfish to tend to the responsibilities of his family. Not just one child, but the three from his previous marriage as well. I suppose you think the person who stays home to take care of four children while the man works, is not equal to the man because the paycheck is not in her name. No, both people have their role in taking care of and providing for the family. Both jobs are equal. I suppose you are one of those men that do not consider a stay at home mom a ‘real’ job or a worthy endeavor.
        It seems as though you condone and encourage emotionally immature and selfish men to be as such. It seems as though you also condone abusive behavior to not only women, but to children as well.
        I find you to be extremely arrogant, and possibly suffering from NPD yourself, or rather, APD, Asshole personality disorder.

      • thepatriotdad

         /  September 12, 2012

        If you knowingly married “a man who was too emotionally immature and selfish to tend to the responsibilities of his family. Not just one child, but the three from his previous marriage as well.” where does that put you on the maturity scale.

        And as to your going to nursing school. You are very welcome. It is all the rest of us who are paying for your education with grants, scholarships, and our tax dollars that provide you with the special funding for single mothers only. I have a number of friends who are guidance counselors in various colleges and universities. There are even programs to provide day care while you attend.

        Now, the most important point to make. YOU ARE DESTROYING YOUR CHILDREN. The rest of us will be footing that bill, too. If you speak only a fraction as badly of your children’s father as you tell me of him, you are telling your children several things:

        1. The half of them that is daddy is worthless and hated by you.
        2. You resent them and don’t whole-heartedly cherish them.
        3. You are telling them that your love is conditional and if they do not perform as you wish, they will be thrown away, too.

        And then I could get into the sexual attitudes you are teaching both the boys and girls in your family. You are assuring increased chances of teen preganancy, seriel relationships and marriages (like you).

        Argue with me all you want, but get real help before you destroy the precious gifts some man gave you, your children.

      • bphoto@nwlink.com

         /  September 12, 2012

        Hmmm. I suppose you feel the wiser choice is to continue to work for $13.50 an hour and live below the poverty level for the rest of our lives, ( poverty is good for children is what I’m hearing you say ) being a leach on the government eternally. I don’t think so. Education is in fact, the gateway to success, and a prosperous future! A prosperous person has much more to give to the community, society as a whole, and their children. So, against your great advice, I will stick with nursing school.
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      • thepatriotdad

         /  December 7, 2012

        Where the heck did you read that I want anyone below poverty who wants to be responsible for their own lives. I just don’t believe that faithless women or stupid women who hook up with ‘bad boys’ should have the rest of us pay any of their bills. Ever hear of PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY. No one owes you their hard earned money so you can go off and do something else stupid with it. So called ‘freebies’ for single mothers are some of the most expensive (for the working men and women) wastes of good money that vote buying politicians can come up with.

    • thepatriotdad

       /  September 11, 2012

      “Me think she doth protest too much”. In this day and time the need to “flee her abusive husband” rings so empty in general that not even N.O.W. or the shelter organizations try to sell that tired old line, anymore.

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      • bphoto@nwlink.com

         /  September 12, 2012

        Oh goody, we have a back up team of misogynistic men on stand by, with a script in hand! No, my soon to be ex husband lives in our beautiful 5 bedroom, four car garage home all by himself. Our one biological child resides with me in an apartment. Shortly after we left, he took a job in afghanistan, leaving his other 3 children, ages 13, 15 and 17 living alone in said large house. The fifteen year old was kicked out of high school for missing too much school, the 17 year old was one week away of being kicked out of his senior year, and the 13 year old girl was attending school off and on and having various issues w drugs, etc. Way to go dad! The 17 year old has since joined the military and the other two decided it was in their best interest to go live with their mom in another state. I keep in touch with them regularly, and they are thriving in a home with parental guidance, love, boundaries, etc. Needless to say, they want no contact with their abusive and unavailable dad. He has been given every opportunity to be a father to our six year old and chooses not to. Sad to say, she deserves so much more. He also lives alone with all the toys we purchased for him during our marriage, his harley, four wheeler, military vehicles, 20 thousand dollar gun collection, etc…his toys were always the most important thing in his life so that’s what he’s got now; a big house, a bunch of toys and no family. I could give a shit about all the toys and house. I still have a relationship with my step children. We still have family in each other. We also live in peace which is priceless. Ever heard of PTSD? There is no excuse for acting like a raging lunatic to your family and refusing to get help. He had a beautiful wife and four beautiful children. He has no one to blame but himself for the choices he has made and the loss of his entire family. Its been fun chatting with you boys; I find you to be endlessly positive and uplifting, but I’ve got to go to work. I work at an in home care agency caring for the elderly in their homes. But I suppose you find this has no value either. I would love to hear your thoughts on the elderly. Are they sponges, too?
        Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile

      • thepatriotdad

         /  September 12, 2012

        You need assistance. You hate everyone but the person who really harmed you when you were a child.

        Having dealt with quite a few who suffer from NPD, you are showing the signs, you are jealous of his guns, his hobbies, and anything of interest to him if it interfered with what you demanded. You are bitter because you didn’t strip him of his wealth. You are bitter because you now have a child. You are bitter that you thought you could rip him off and weren’t able to.

        I would bet you were as unfaithful to him physically as you were emotionally. I would bet you work hard at alienating your child from her father. I would bet you have made more serious false allegations than you have made against him here. His attorney has probably told him the best way to protect his child is to stay away from her as long as you are around.

        You are a man-hater and your hate predates this husband. You bring nothing to the table except the ramblings of someone who does not understand themself or their own rage. It is why you trolled me and why you continue to spout trash and insults in your frustrated rage that you are unable to slit my tires, my throat, steal my money, or put me in jail.

        Your extensive comments on my blog site expose you more thoroughly than the last time you worked in a strip club. You only know what is right and wrong by what some one tells you and even then you can not apply such concepts. You have no sense of remorse for your own actions, it is always ‘someone else’s’ fault. You have no concept of causation and repercussion for your own actions. I would bet you were raised by a single mother who allowed her boyfriends, new hubby, johns, girlfriends, or whatever she was into, to abuse you. If you were not raised by a single mother you were raised by an emotionally absent one whether through her passivity or her overly dominant behavior. She either abused, or allowed you to be abuse.

        It was your mother who set you up for all of this, if you were the child of a single mother. And, in your rage, you want your daughter to experience the same hate (and abuse). You are doing a great job at destroying your child as thoroughly as you were destroyed. You can take responsibility for your life and know peace, but it is not found through rage and hate.

        You will receive no more responses from me. It is not passive aggressive behavior on my part, it is to prevent your rage from causing you to hurt others.

        Your inconsistencies and bouncing around with allegations and insinuations that I hold concepts you have been told are abhorrent but do not understand well enough to express rationally, tell me that you are a hazard to yourself, your child, and clearly to your ex. Without sarcasm, best wishes as you struggle with life.

      • bphoto@nwlink.com

         /  September 12, 2012

        You’re a sick fuck, one of the most verbally abusive people I have ever encountered. You’re a drone. Everything that comes out of your mouth is verbal diarrhoea. Everything that comes out of your mouth is a projection, so its not so hard to figure out you are the one who was fucked up the ass with a broomstick by mommy. You’re probably out after hours strangling section 8 whores. I gather you have no significant other in your life, god knows no self respecting woman would ‘shack’ up with a monster like yourself. Go fuck yourself. You are truly a piece of shit.
        Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile

      • thepatriotdad

         /  October 28, 2012

        Dear nameless bphoto@nwlink.com,
        Typical criminal feminist response, when faced with someone who sees through you, you resort to name calling, bullying, and what you think are insults, how shallow and predictable. You will have to ‘fish’ around some more for my hot buttons to cause me to loose my cool. Haven’t done that in decades, at least not since junior high. You really do need some serious help with your raging. Are your children safe? Two thirds of children murdered are by their rage-aholic mothers. They murder their sons twice as often as their children. Children are at significantly higher chances of abuse and molestation when living in a single mother home. 95% of our prostitutes and drug addicts were raised in single mother homes. And, the chances of serious mental/relational issues increase dramatically. As a matter of fact you seem to be reacting as one would expect of a girl raised by an mother who worked at alienating you from your father. Hope you get some help before you kill some innocent man or child.

      • thepatriotdad

         /  October 28, 2012

        I have not been abusive, you are the one who is verbally abuse, crude, and without any class at all. It speaks of your lack of any real logic or reason in your stand, only a reactionary striking out to retain unlawful and abusive power holds over men through false allegations and other criminal activity. Are you sure your children are safe, you are extemely prejudices and that is in and of itself sufficient to be called child abuse. You need help with your raging. Best of luck and please get help before you hurt yourself or some innocent victim you are targeting.

      • bfoot

         /  September 12, 2012

        Hmmm. I suppose you feel the wiser choice is to continue to work for $13.50 an hour and live below the poverty level for the rest of our lives, ( poverty is good for children is what I’m hearing you say ) being a leach on the government eternally. I don’t think so. Education is in fact, the gateway to success, and a prosperous future! A prosperous person has much more to give to the community; society as a whole, and their children. Against your great advice, I will stick with nursing school. Hmmmm, so kids right out of high school whose parents can’t afford college should be penalized to a lifetime of poverty. No college for you, kid! Go and get a job at the five and dime. You’re a real piece of work, patriotdad.

    • thepatriotdad

       /  September 12, 2012

      Dear bfoot,
      What and how you write would make me wonder just who the rage-aholic might be in that marriage. “5,000 machine guns”? You really pick a winner, and would that cost at least $500,000. dollars for at least $5,000 machine guns, even junker automatic weapons run at the least, $1,000 to $1,200 each. And that is the cheap junk stuff. Yes there are bad dads out there, but the corruption of courts that you seem to be complaining of came about as a direct result of feminist lobbying. Say “Thank you elitist feminists”. This is the ‘equality’ they promised you. You now get shit on just as badly as the guys do, in the fair courts who shit on everyone equally. Equality? Hmmmmmm? Sounds like you wanted him to earn the money and you call the shots. You picked him. You married him. If you weren’t willing to pay for your own choices, then grow up and learn to handle what you have dealt yourself in life.

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      • bfoot

         /  September 12, 2012

        And furthermore, you are making assumptions from your misogynistic script. I watched for years as my husband spewed hatred for their mother to his children. I saw first hand how it fucked them up. And I remember thinking, how on earth could you have not even a kindred respect for the woman you had 3 children with. I am smart enough not to talk in a negative fashion to my daughter about her father. Doing so would HURT HER. I have tried for some time to keep him alive in her heart, and like I said, he has been given every opportunity……He often comes up in a conversation here and there, such as the way daddy made her peanut and butter jelly sandwich, but not so much anymore. She is forgetting. I will never speak crap about her dad to her. She can grow up and come to her own conclusions as his other children did. It’s not for me to decide for her or sway her. CHILDREN love their parents. It’s inherent. It’s not something for me to take away from her.

  5. In Response to bfoot ~ What we do know my dear is like millions of American children, ‘your’ Children’s father is nowhere to be seen. Your dialogue sounds like the makings of a family court order, made just for you. Now let me guess, you divorced your husband, you got the house, the money and the kids and he has not seen the children since you filed a stay away from your own kids order for the last eight years.

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    • bfoot

       /  September 12, 2012

      Oh goody, we have a back up team of misogynistic men on stand by, with a script in hand!
      No, my soon to be ex husband lives in our beautiful 5 bedroom, four car garage home all by himself. Our one biological child resides with me in an apartment. Shortly after we left, he took a job in afghanistan, leaving his other 3 children, ages 13, 15 and 17 living alone in said large house. The fifteen year old was kicked out of high school for missing too much school, the 17 year old was one week away of being kicked out of his senior year, and the 13 year old girl was attending school off and on and having various issues w drugs, etc. Way to go dad! The 17 year old has since joined the military and the other two decided it was in their best interest to go live with their mom in another state. I keep in touch with them regularly, and they are thriving in a home with parental guidance, love, boundaries, etc. Needless to say, they want no contact with their abusive and unavailable dad.
      He has been given every opportunity to be a father to our six year old and chooses not to. Sad to say, she deserves so much more. He also lives alone with all the toys we purchased for him during our marriage, his harley, four wheeler, military vehicles, 20 thousand dollar gun collection, etc…his toys were always the most important thing in his life so that’s what he’s got now; a big house, a bunch of toys and no family. I could give a shit about all the toys and house. I still have a relationship with my step children. We still have family in each other. We also live in peace which is priceless.
      Ever heard of PTSD? There is no excuse for acting like a raging lunatic to your family and refusing to get help. He had a beautiful wife and four beautiful children. He has no one to blame but himself for the choices he has made and the loss of his entire family. Its been fun chatting with you boys; I find you to be endlessly positive and uplifting, but I’ve got to go to work. I work at an in home care agency caring for the elderly in their homes. But I suppose you find this has no value either. I would love to hear your thoughts on the elderly. Are they sponges, too?
      Sent via BlackBerry

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      • Bfoot ~ Whatever issues you have with males, take it to the cleaners. You are neither constructive nor helpful. I suggest you take a dose of reality by reviewing the CDC statistics on abuse in a world of state psychological torture and the Pandora of Medea there are more people killed in auto accidents or even by elephants for that matter than there are men or women. However as you purport ‘throwing cheese at a female is abuse, what did your ex husband do, ‘throw cheese at the kids’ ! Or was it something more nefarious like sex, in which case you are more perverted than I thought. Secondly, a divorce with children is no fault, just like car insurance. The state needs people like you to ensure a certain political point of view is maintained, so you keep trolling the internet looking for someone to buy your story. Which reflects a bad real situation for females in their twilight years, efficiencies, condos and pets for everyone. I suggest you check out and subjugate yourself to a DV centers philosophy. Do check out the documentary ‘She stole my voice’, who knows you may even earn some extra dollars being pimped not just by the family courts but a DV center for federal money as a poster child. Check out the results of your philosophy for the quality of life for a working girl who dreams the IV-d federal program. Go in peace or bring something constructive and more importantly positive. As for the older folk the state agencies predate on those just as they do with children, they need the revenue and you as a good proxy. Keep up the good work you appear to be good at it..

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