Where All the Good Men Are, And Kay Hymowitz Has No Clue.

A critique of “Where Have All the Good Men Gone” by Kay M. Hymowitz:

Dear MS. Kay M. Hymowitz,

In response to the Wall Street Journal article of  February 2011, The Good Men are avoiding you like the plague and the only men willing to court the feminist black widows are the men willing to risk being served up as a  life ending midnight knosh.  Ironically, the vast majority of women who destroy the fathers of their children end up as prey to the legal system and to their own offspring who suck the life from their own mother through the children’s life long bitterness, addictions, prostitution, violence, and worse.   One only has to research the prognosis of single mother children for addictions, prostitution, imprisonment, etc… What man wants to have children he will not be able to raise or see while they are growing up? What man wants to have children who are ten times more likely to prostitutes, drug addicts or sex offenders? And you wonder why men are walking away?

This tragedy of single mother raised children happens at all economic levels.   The very wealthy gold-digger’s children have the same tragic prognosis as the ghetto welfare mother’s children.  The futures of the children of  both are statistically very very bleak with the least of problems being serial relationships and marriages.

Kay Hymowitz is getting close for a feminist, but she still doesn’t get it.   She keeps laying the blame on the men even when she admits her sister feminists are beating up the men.    MS. Hymowitz seems to think her power mad sister feminists are equals to men in so many arenas.   She should research more carefully the entitlements of job preferences, education preferences, famliy law preferences, etc…, at the expense of taxpayer’s and individual men’s wallets is an acceptable proposition.    She can’t even get the foundation of her argument quite right. Women are not equal, they are propped up by massive infusions of governmental cash and quotas that must be met or subject employers, schools, professions to civil and criminal persecutions. And, after the fun wears off the elitist women who have destroyed so many resources for their empty image of professionalism just pack up and go home. Over half of them are back at home in under 12 years. What is the cost to industry, tax payors, and the men’s incomes that these entitled women wasted, spent and destroyed.  

In reference to Kay’s rather shallow and superficial approach to her work titled “Where Have All The Good Men Gone?”  and “Manning Up.” Has she stopped to look, critically, within when it comes to the men in her life?  

If I were to have a discussion with Kay on this topic, my points would go something like this:

You believe manning up is paying for some slick tramps bills for the rest of her life while he is lucky to get spam on Fridays, instead of his daily Ramen Noodles.   Is the feminist vagina so golden and his penis so dirty as to justify a man’s life-time enslavement to a once upon a time lover or ex-wife?   Why don’t you start telling your sisters to ‘WOMAN UP’ and be responsible for their own lives and bad decisions.

 How can you, as a feminist, hope for  anything but an emotionally armed truce for mutual transient needs when you are so hyper-critical of men and continuing to demand the many things that women want from men?  

If the courts and legislature mandated a woman provide for a man’s needs for life once she divorces or once she sleeps with him, how crazy would that sound to the feminists of Kay S. Hymowitz circles?   How loud would you and your puerile femi-sisters scream?   Yet they demand the courts and government provide that very enslavement of men to the entitled feminist.    Kay S. you are intellectually dishonest.

Misandry, as with misogyny is a form of self-loathing.   And, you reek of self-loathing in your attacks on the wisdom of men avoiding predatory, ungrateful, and faithless women.  You make men even more cautious around the large numbers of decent women who are still out there.    But, yet, we are boys for not charging, lemming like, over the cliffs of matrimony in to the unforgiving cold sea below or to be like male paramours of black widow spiders who become the after sex snack of a cold and uncaring mate who will herself be fed upon by her brood.   You, Kay Hymowitz, are emotionally dishonest.

You envy what the decent women have, a caring supportive and financially supporting man who loves the woman and the children he gives her.   But you want it without the entanglement of actually getting to know or respect a man.  You espouse wanting to take the man’s children, money, home, respect, family, and anything else you can steal and pry from his still live fingers and then wonder why men avoid you and your feminist sisters with whom you surround yourself?   You are dishonest and misleading to the vast majority of your own gender.

You surround yourself with man-haters, you write man-hate articles and books, and then you want men to worship you and decent men to flock to you for you to pick and chose amongst them for the one who you think will complete you the most?

Are you crazy?  

That was not rhetorical.   Anyone who has taken their college freshman liberal blinders off will tell you that you don’t attack victims by warning them of your scam ahead of time.   You don’t put up traffic signs to  inform “This Way to be Hijacked” , or “Roadside Piracy 2 Miles Ahead”.    I’m sorry, but you just did put up your roadsigns, didn’t you?

And you say these men are not ‘Manning Up’ because they do not take the Hijack or Piracy exits?  

You are crazy to think you deserve the fruits of someone else’s labor without quid pro quo.   You are crazy to think the smart and capable will buy into your plan to destroy them, their offspring (look at the prognosis for children raised by your single feminist sisters) and possibly end their life (15,000 men a year commit suicide from loss of family, children, home, etc.  in our family courts) just to fund your Narcissistic self-destructive life-styles.     And, men have become mere boys for not ‘Manning Up’ eagerly for your sadistic and torturous treatments.

How much arrogance can feminism contain?    Are all believing they are each and everyone a Helen of Troy when in statement and deed they are Medeas?

How can you ever be sure the very personal rejection your feminist compatriots sexual charms isn’t just a self-defense reaction from the men you attack?  Could it be that your physical sexual attributes that women like to over-value, do not overcome your advertising yourself as a female equivalent of a preying mantis ready to prey upon and feed upon the very father of her children?  

How can you not understand the basics of ‘Risk to Reward’ decision making process of men?  There are even mathmatical algorithms to minutely quantify this decision making process.   Yet you ignore the factor of self preservation.   

Why should any man, who is much more emotionally, financially, and psychologically self-contained, risk total and absolute destruction of himself and any children he gives a feminist when he can have a full and fun life without the heartaches and impoverishment feminism brings men, women, and children?  

You  have written and been published  in the context of racial social policy what single motherhood portends for the children and the duped single mothers in the Black ghetto.  Your racism shows through when you can not apply the same near objectivity  to your white middle-class feminist sisters.

It is not the men who have embraced a culturally new ideology of gender warfare, government whoredom of women with welfare, and enforced system entitlements, but the women who have built a world view based on feminist myth of all men as violent rapists and a demand for a total lack of personal accountability for the feminists’ own life decisions, violence, sex offenses against men and children, etc…. 

As the ideology of feminism is being rejected more and more by the larger number of women in this country, we see the die-hard feminists begin to moderate their statements of misandry and begin to speak of women as equals to men all things male, but maintain strict boundaries on all things female.

Feminism is the ultimate female movement for dependence and entitlement. It is a movement of slavers.

Feminist policy goals are to make someone else, a man, the government, society, anybody, responsible for their discontent and desired lifestyle level.

To be dependent for life is foremost and premier as the underlying dogma of all feminist effort.  This is true, whether a man is supposed to ‘man up’ and provide a woman her every need at her every whim or a government to pay a woman’s way while she looses count of the men’s shoes under her bed as she ‘sucks’ them in and then discards them like yesterday’s banana peel.  This demanded dependency is such that no woman is to be held accountable, only some man, even if he is a stranger, is supposed to “Man up”.

Sexual Promiscuity is a process that the feminist recruit has been told will ‘sexually liberate’ her,  especially if she experiments with homosexuality.   Yet these perverse, risky, and self-destructiveactions leave her with a feeling of degradation and self-loathing she transfers in a defensive reflex into blaming men.  Feminist avoid responsibility by blaming men for the feminists’ own bad decisions.   Accountability only counts for men.   

Feminists are so angry at men because when the feminist demands for ultimate and totally unaccountable female relationship and financial power became too heavy a trade-off, the men walked.  Slaves aren’t supposed to be able to walk, so they must be punished and demeaned. Women have been peripheral in men’s lives.

Kay Hymowitz is first and foremost among the more popular pseudo-intellectual who has made a career of demeaning men, accusing men of avoiding women after watching their fathers and grandfathers stripped of home, children, family, and wealth by some faithless woman.

Men have never needed a woman ‘to complete’ them, or we would not have adventurers, sailors, or early world trade caravans.  We would still be sitting in the savannah waiting for some predator to come and eat our slower members, the very young, elderly, or pregnant women. As women demand evermore enslavement of men, politically, culturally, socially, legally, emotionally and financially, men, as men in the ghettos have done, walk.

What sane man will build permanent ties with a woman who espouses man-hate, man-abuse, and man-enslavement. Hello? Any one home over there at the feminist encampment?  

When feminists become mothers and do not appreciate the gifts men bring, every thing the man does will cause the feminist to be angry no matter how supportive or enriching the man’s acts are towards the feminist..   As with any Narcissistic woman, she will be angry if the children get too much attention, the birthday gift was less than $10,000, not buy her the newest SUV or if he asks her to cut back on her twice a week day spa. The woman retaliates with divorce that forces wage slavery and punitive measures on a man who gave his all for giving his all. This will show him, it will destroy his career, create a tragic prognosis for the children’s adulthoods, and impoverish all. But, by God she showed him how mighty she is. Now, in a divorce, the courts will state that he must provide for the family and his ex as if he were still receiving all of the benefits of his marriage plus pay her attorneys who stole from the family as a whole, plus carry another home, plus pay for ‘visits’ with his own children, plus, plus, plus….. Just this one factor will drive many of the more intelligent and capable single young men away from marriage, commitment, and family.

Yet, we have so many more factors than those listed above to describe where Feminism, not women as a whole, has incentivized men to forego what they would like but do not have to have, a wife and children. Feminist have worked at detracting from the gifts a man brings to a relationship, not as another woman, but as an emotional counter weight to the realities of women’s hormonally driven emotions and to the economic support so that women can have the privilege of the financial, emotional, sexual and cultural security a man brings to a relationship. It is when a woman honors a man for what he provides of himself to her and any children that he gives of himself, completely. I do not hear Kay begin to honor men for what they bring to the table, she can only demean it.

Why should any man honor a woman with a lifelong commitment of support when she demeans him and his gender as well as the many gifts he brings. Feminists are such spoiled little children who have long ago lost all appreciation of others.

Ms Hymowitz, your self-professed feminism  is an ideology of Narcissism.  Feminists will breed themselves into non-existence (or it would be better stated they will not be bred into the future.) Feminism is an already dying ideology of personal tyranny.  How ironic and shallow that feminists call the men who rightfully avoid these feminists, Narcissists. 

You should look past the blind inconsistencies of feminism and then you will find what you really want, a partner and a friend who you can trust respect and to whom you are trustworthy and respectful.  You will be able to answer your former feminist sisters, “All The Good Men Are Hiding From You.”

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  1. Vince

     /  December 27, 2011

    Hi- i read you article and I liked it- I also placed my own comments on the same page. it looks like a lot of men had a lot of things to say regarding Ms. HYMOWITZ comments. here are my comments I placed on the site:

    Ms. HYMOWITZ: This has got to be the most ludicrous ignorant piece of tripe “literature” I have ever read. Your resentment toward men is pathetic. You’re obviously upset that your “biological clock” is ticking and you’re running out of time. You also seem sexually frustrated- LOL If you’re not getting laid or getting a husband and a child it is your fault. I can tell from your picture that you are an arrogant misandric feminist. Your misandric comments and shaming techniques will not get you a date, a mate, or a boyfriend period. You’re lucky if you even get laid with your nasty attitude. No man likes being put down. Your desperation is laughable.

    While I agree that some men may still be stuck in adolescence that is not the case of all men. It is actually the mother’s and father- that is if the father is around- fault for not helping the boys to grow up and mature. I don’t see what video games have to do with anything in your ignorant diatribe. Women have their toys also. Women spend and waste more money on unnecessary junk that sits around and just collects dust. What do you need with 300 pair of shoes and 500 porcelain dolls anyway? Besides if a man spends his own money on buying something you think is unimportant what’s that to you? I guess you prefer he spend all his money on you? LOL like you really need or deserve it- how pathetic you are.

    You aren’t that attractive and your hairdo is ugly. It makes you look masculine instead of feminine like a lady should. That smug smile makes it look like you’re an arrogant person: and the way you’re standing makes you look like you think you are better than other people- which you are not. If I were to see you in person I would say the very same thing to you face to face. You need to work on your looks (try to look like a lady), your attitude and your beliefs before you will ever be able to find a decent mature man: instead of a boy.

    I could go on and on about things you need to do to improve yourself before you will be able to get a man, but I think I would be wasting my time on you. You seem to have already made up your mind that you know it all. You obviously don’t have the power of clairvoyance to look into the minds of men to find out what men are attracted to and you have no clue to go about attracting a man. If you email me I would give you pointers. You are obviously attracted to childish men since that seems to be the premise of your argument. Perhaps being nice to men: acting like a decent person instead of an arrogant twit would also help you get a date? If you want a mature man; look for a mature man. Maybe you need to find men in a different venue? Going to bars isn’t that best place to find a mature man.

  2. Ed

     /  August 16, 2013

    Your bitterness toward women is really odd. If your secure in your manhood, why feel the need to insult feminists? I have a feminist daughter–I raised her than way. I’d never want any less for her than my sons. It’s mind boggling that as a father you would talk this way about females. But then again, maybe you don’t have a daughter. Still, anyone with even a mother or wife should want equality for women. Word to the wise, let go of the hate.

    • thepatriotdad

       /  September 21, 2013

      First off you have no idea of what you are talking about, you are talking to me from your safe little cocoon where you are blinded to what is happening to 60% of the men in this world. All I can say is if you have ‘sons’ which means two or more, the odds are that at least one of them will be eaten alive by the system that you claim is ‘unfair’ to women. Wait until the lives of your sons and grandchildren are damaged or destroyed and write me back then. Until then, do not mistake focused intent and truthful presentation as bitterness. If I am bitter it is at the wimps and Pollyanna men who do are too frightened of the reality around them to stick their necks out of their safe little turtle shell to look around.

      I sincerely hope that your sons do not go through the meat grinder in America of family law that destroys the children and causes roughly 15,000 men a year to suicide out. Not even a grossly blindered individual as yourself deserves that for their innocent sons and family. Do yourself a favor and google one of the following: ‘parents rights’, childrens right, or fathers rights to begin to become informed.

    • thepatriotdad

       /  March 3, 2014

      Dear Edwina (or Susie, or Becky, or what ever your real name on your student feminist studies ID. Who are you studying under (pun intended)? Is it Dr. Lenore Walker the infamous false data queen? You can not use data because you do not have any to counter me. You know women are as or more abusive than men. Your efforts to insult me instead of providing information to counter tells me and anyone reading this that you are a man-hater, you would even hate little boys and deny them the same protection and counseling you want for only little girls. I argue for both boys and girls. Shame on you, Edwina or Susie or what ever your name of the day happens to be as you do your femi-trolling.


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