PART I: POVERTY – UNBEARABLE COSTS OF SINGLE MOTHERHOOD FOR PROFIT
While reading this column, I would like for you to realized that 65% to 95% of ALL, EVERY SINGLE ONE of the ills and expenses of our country, poverty, crime, welfare, runaway education and medical expenses, are all products of the rapidly growing number of voluntarily single mothers. These are single mothers who are being bought and paid for to be Welfare voters with your tax dollars.
As I read the small Denison, Texas newspaper this morning, I was struck by a statement that I hadn’t heard in a while, “long slippery slope”. On the same page as that article was another about the Texas Budget for the next two years, a biennium. The three major concerns for the biennium in the expected budget shortfall of $27 billion dollars are:
1. Increased education costs for the 153,000 new public school students expected;
2. Medicare and Medicaid with our current spike in health care costs; and
3. Services to the poor.
We are now speeding rapidly towards the crash at the bottom of that long slope. Nearly all of our budget overruns have a single commonality, the government incentivizing and even forcing single motherhood upon our country. We can all point at the incentives. These numerous incentives account for the greatest increase in single motherhood in the past 40 years. However, single motherhood has become a trap of immense proportions.
We have an overwhelming number of single mothers who chose this condition actively as a lifestyle. There was never any causative abuse or adultery by any spouse. There is a small fraction of single mothers who are and always have been single out of various real life tragedies. And, of course, widows are widows and should not ever be mixed in single mother discussions with the voluntary single mothers.
Promoting single motherhood is promoting poverty of not just the voluntarily and singularly stupid single mothers, but of all of our country and to varying extents to which feminists have exported their onerous policies to the rest of the world, all of the inhabitants of this globe.
We are going to have to return personal accountability to women for their own actions, good or bad. This is as we have always done to men, in spite of the efforts of feminists to revise history to say that men and marriage is bad and rarely of any special benefit. Feminist have gone to great lengths to rewrite history to fit the myths upon which they base their political ideology of self-aggrandizement at the expense of children, other women, and all men. Feminism has been a popular ideology in some of our power elite circles as a means to make greater inroads into our personal liberties, freedoms, and, of course, our wealth.
Our politicians, while silencing any opposing opinions or real public discourse have charted a course where we reward and incentivize women to become Whores of the State. Gratefully, we still have a large number of women who have maintained personal integrity and have refused to fall into the easy money trap of welfare, poverty, abuse, and destruction of their own children. It is a trap that our media elites have conspired to help falsely sell with their massive propaganda machines churning out ‘entertainment’ fantasies of successful, have it all single women and of how marriage is only another name for abuse. The reality is a far cry from the message sent by our media and our politicians.
This course charted by politicians and power elites among our judiciary have only been able to do so with access to the public coffers. The coffers are running dry.
Since it is statistically likely that every extended family in America has experienced a “No Fault” divorce, we all recognize that in massively disproportionate numbers women are the ones who are destroying the American Families and it is not the men who are abandoning their family and children. If a woman files a ‘No Fault’ divorce she is more likely to be guaranteed control of the children and all, if not most, of the current assets of the union and the man’s future income, sometimes for decades to come. And, this foolishly filing woman is guaranteed to have the bills resulting from her failure of responsibility to be paid by all of the rest of us. This common and faithless woman is allowed to destroy her family and her children’s lives for transient ‘feelings’ with no real fault by her spouse. In fact, she is rewarded for doing just this.
It is relatively rare that a woman filing for “No Fault” divorce is given an equal or greater share of the debt. The innocent, “No Fault” husband, generally gets the lion’s share of the debt while being forced to subsidize the unwanted loss of his children to some boyfriend, lesbian lover, or a new stepdad. The faithful dad who was found by a court of law to have ‘No Fault’ is forced, through a wrong done by his spouse, not him, into poverty, is criminalized, and even jailed for not performing court ordered impossibilities at the behest of the woman. We have all seen this on an almost daily basis. It is becoming so blasé as to be considered a part of life for men such as puberty or male pattern baldness. To lighten this message, here is a short and very entertaining video that accurately depicts what is done to our responsible to disincentivize marriage and responsible fatherhood. It is a great study in Risk to Reward:
The forcing of single motherhood has, thankfully, been so offensive that even the more radical liberals have shied away from the use of bizarrely defined abuse claims to force women to divorce or lose access to their own children. This can be seen in such extreme instances as considering a woman abused who is raising a child in home where the husband worked, earned the money, and kept the checkbook with the wife’s permission. The husband, without the wife objecting, keeping the checkbook was considered so abusive that a Mass. caseworker told the woman to divorce her husband or lose their child. The young couple was jailed when they refused to turn the child over to the State’s foster system after the faithful young mother refused to divorce or separate from her checkbook balancing, working husband. These ‘forced’ divorces are minimal in number. The very design behind these bizarre definitions of abuse and demands to remove the fathers was to be a stick to force divorce and single motherhood where the false carrot of child support and welfare did not work to destroy a family.
When one begins to breakdown the increased education expenses, it is found that smaller classrooms are needed (with the increase in teachers and buildings) because of the lack of discipline of the overwhelming percentage of children coming from single mother homes. If there is any doubt these children are a problem, the statistics provided later in this article will answer that doubt. From the increase in budget for the children in general, the special ‘prison’ campuses, campuses for serious offenders bringing weapons, drugs or violence onto campuses, create massive funding needs well beyond what is provided to children from stable two bio-parent homes.
The majority of single mother homes are those incentivized by tax funds and lending programs forced upon our financial industry to provide lifestyles to single mothers, these women cannot afford on their own, at the expense of the general market. And, as shown with the single example of impact on schools and then extrapolate the continued problems into adulthood with increases police, court, and prison costs, we can begin to see the multiplication of costs to our society and economy in just this one tiny arena of all the massive arenas affected by the subsidizing of single mother homes.
A single mother can be guaranteed a home, income, health care, day care, food, utilities, and even a big screen TV, if she will either have a child out of wedlock or divorce the father of her children. Plus as an added incentive, the woman can use any number of programs to misuse, abuse, and essentially enslave a man for his wages with the backing of law enforcement guns and jails. A single mother can pull the strings on her new toy, the father of her children, while she steals the father from the children’s lives. Father presence is the singularly most important factor in children becoming healthy, happy, and productive citizens. The children’s futures and fortunes are being stolen by these feckless women.
It is these same faithless and unfit mothers who are the most vocal in their screams that the man step up to the plate and do his duty to support his children. Most of the support goes to mommy’s Narcissism or new sexual adventures either in clothes, flashy car, cosmetics, or direct payments to boyfriends for hot, temporary, transient sex. It has been repeatedly reported for decades that Section 8 housing administrators for welfare mothers tell the private landlords that the tenant single moms being subsidized by our tax dollars can have a “dozen pair of men’s shoes under the bed each night, but no man’s clothes in the closet”. Translated, this means she is subsidized as long as she is either a skank or a whore, but she will lose her benefits if she has a stable relationship with a single man or with the father of any of her children.
Section 8 is funded by our Social Security system. Most of the women abusing these Social Security programs have never worked or worked for such a minimal time as to be nothing more than pure leeches upon our economy. We are funding their perversions. The same politicians who ensure these payments for dependency voters are the ones who like to falsely claim that welfare was ‘fixed’ with the Clinton’s welfare reform package. These dependency creating politicians would have the public believe it is the seniors who worked all their lives who are the ones at fault for the Social Security expense overruns.
All the Clinton’s welfare reform did was to shift the bookkeeping so that it showed the fathers of these welfare children were responsible for the mother’s benefits. This happens when the father was never allowed any say in the raising, care, or expense of his children. In fact, the father is charged these debts when the situation was forced upon him when he was more than ready willing and able to care for his children without government funding. Shifting tens and hundreds of billions of dollars of welfare debt to fathers who already earn below poverty wages was just a trick to fool the rest of us who still have to pay on this growing expense. It was a bookkeeping trick putting the debt on those who cannot pay, while still writing the same or larger checks for the same problem that was not fixed.
There was never a problem of any serious proportion of fathers abandoning children and wives, until the government created the problem, such that the government needed to intrude and force men to support families. The government tore the families and the men apart and then increased the expenses, called obligations, upon only the man while providing up to 72 different means tested welfare programs to single mothers and their children. These impoverished men only have the Salvation Army to turn to for food and shelter. The Salvation Army has limited capacity and many men receive no support at all, except for what they find under a bridge or overpass.
And, a little known fact is that the vast majority of fathers who are being charged for the welfare payments to the mother of their children are themselves living below poverty levels. If welfare was not so gender biased the majority of men the Federal government claims owes this money, would themselves be on welfare.
Single mothers raised 95% of all of those who are either in prison or receiving treatments for drug addiction. Single motherhood is single handedly funding the drug cartels and all of the narco wars around the world, including Afghanistan. And, our government incentivized more of these ‘drug addict factories’ we call single mothers.
A like figure of 95% single mother raised applies to women arrested for prostitution. It is expected this number is similar for male prostitutes.
Young women, generally obese, are regularly overheard in grocery store lines boasting of the many ways and scams they have used to turn welfare and children’s food benefits into money for their drugs, alcohol, boyfriends, and trips to the casinos.
Our mortgage industry collapsed under the weight of our lenders being forced (read taxed) into social lending to mainly single women for the purchase of grand homes well above the real purchase ability of these women. Women were given preference for sub-prime loans where a woman with a $30,000/ year income could buy a $300,000, $400,000 or even a $500,000 home. The monthly payments for the first few years would be less than the interest alone. The notes would quickly exceed the value of the home as un-charged, and un-paid interest was added to the principle. A $300,000 home in five years of $700 payments could increase the note principle to $320,000 or higher. At the end of the five years the payments suddenly jump from the $700 range to over $3,000 per month. That is greater than the $30,000 income the woman earned, not counting her tax free child support income she spends and daddy gets taxed on.
In early 2008, before the recognized financial crises and collapse of our mortgage markets, research showed the vast majority of all foreclosures were a direct result of divorce. The same commonality was found in our consumer credit industry. Well over 75% of the losses to our consumer credit industry were a direct result of divorce. Yet, both industries have remained unusually quiet on the bankrupting of their industries to help incentivize and support the growth of single motherhood. This shows that not only public tax monies, but forced private losses of income and profit were used to incentivize single motherhood.
Women were buying homes well beyond their means to give the appearance, at great societal costs, that women could have it all without a man. Ironically, most income tax is paid by men who create whole industries to keep others employed. We take from those most able to grow our economy and give the resources to those who would waste the wealth of others, voluntarily single mothers.
And the Family Law courts, in divorce, are knowingly encouraging and allowing the passing on of personal debt to the private companies by assigning nearly all debts, generally incurred by the wife, to the father. After Dad is bankrupted, then the companies raise rates and charges to recover the losses which are in effect another method of taxing all of the rest of us for the policy of incentivizing Narcissistic Divorce by women.
Our excesses in family policies have taken their toll. In every single category of public and private expense we can account for negative and unnecessary effects of our family destructive policies that have experimented and clearly failed with creation of ‘modern’ families. These modern families can only thrive with massive infusions of money from public and private coffers. We have run out of money and these tens of millions of families are still just as destroyed.
The singular heart of this grandiose new experiment in creating a dole dependent voting bloc, or, in the alternative felons with no voting rights at all, has been No Fault Divorce. The massive rise in welfare mom headed households (one of the categories of households now categorized as a ‘Modern Family’) accounts for 90+% of all welfare households.
Single mother households must, generally, be funded by mainly men. The majority of taxes from which our money flows from the population, to the coffers of government and on to the single mother homes are paid by men. Child support is a tax on men for having children if the woman wants to go play with someone else, irrespective of costs in money or the lives of their children.
A woman can chose to divorce and go on welfare over the objections of the man. He then becomes liable for her personal and financial choices while having to maintain a separate home. If he is unable to meet the obligations imposed on him through no fault or choice of his own, he is criminalized at great loss to our society and economy and greater expense to his children for generations to come and massively greater relative expense to our coffers. The man is no longer a productive citizen, supporting and caring for his own children in the environment most likely to create a new generation of good citizens, father raised children. He is now living in a jail at a greater monthly cost to our budgets than his child support obligation or the targeted taxation of a father for the welfare choices of a faithless and fickle woman.
Single mother households beget single mother households.
50% of single mothers are below the poverty line; their children are 6 times more likely to be in poverty than children with married parents. Chuck Colson, “How Shall We Live”, Tyndale House.
85% of homeless families are single mother families. Barry H. Waldman and Stephen P. Perlman, “Homeless Children With Disabilities, “The Exceptional Parent, June 1, 2008 (American Academy of Developmental Medicine and Dentistry
90% of welfare recipients are single mothers. Jason DeParle, “Raising Kevion”, New York Times, Aug. 22, 2004
There were 3 million single mothers in 1970 and 10 million in 2003. U.S. Census, Table FM-2, All Parent/Child Situations, by Type, Race, and Hispanic origin of Householder, 1970 to 2003
Single mothers begat feral (criminal) children as adults or dependent children with addictions and disorders that negatively impact our society.
Single mother dominated filings in our courts account for upwards of 85% of our judicial budget when their issues clog our courts with false allegations, divorces, custody, visitation, juvenile, and crimes un-proportionately committed by adult children of single mothers. Add to this list the many other issues revolving around stealing the fathers away from the their children when it has been shown the greatest commonality for negative impact on children as adults is being raised in a single mother house and the greatest commonality for constructive citizenship has been where the children are raised in bio-father home, with or without the mother.
Children of single mothers are a net negative on our society with lowered education and income levels and greatly increased chance of the daughters of these homes following in the faithless and leeching single mother who raised them and taught them dependency life values.
Single mothers turn their children into criminals who in turn clog our courts on the criminal side of our courts.
In March 2003 one Texas Judge reported that 85% of all Texans who see the court see them through Family Law.
About February, 2004, The Corpus Christi Caller Times had a front page story that declared a Texas Judiciary funded survey had found that 85% of all Texans, and 87% of the citizens of Corpus Christi believed the courts made decisions based on money, sex, politics, and friendship over facts, rules, and law. It seems that even the winners in Family Law are frightened of the corruption. But this is a topic for many other articles besides this one.
“The strongest predictor of whether a person will end up in prison, is that they were raised by a single parent”. C.C. Harper and S.S. McLanahan, “Father Absence and Youth Incarceration”, Paper presented at the Annual Meeting of the American Sociological Assoc., San Francisco, CA, 1998
In 1996, 70% of inmates in state juvenile detention centers serving long sentences, were raised by single mothers. Wade Horn, “Why There Is No Substitute For Parents”, IMPRIMIS 26, NO.6, June, 1997
72% of juvenile murderers and 60% of rapists came from SINGLE MOTHER HOMES. Chuck Colson, “How Shall We Live?” Tyndale House , 2004, p.323
“After controlling for single motherhood, the difference between black and white crime rates disappeared.” Progressive Policy Institute, 1990, quoted by David Blankenhorn, “Fatherless America: Confronting Our Most Urgent Social Problem,” New York, Harper Perennial, 1996, p.31
“(I)n a recent study by the Baltimore-based Annie E. Casey Foundation. Comparing statistics for its Kids Count report, the organization reported that Detroit ranks No.1 in unmarried births among the nations’ 50 largest cities. Of the 16,729 babies born in Detroit in 1997, 13,574 were black, 1,679 were white and 817 were Hispanic. Seventy-one percent were born to unmarried mothers. This compared with a state average of 33 percent and a 50-city average of 43 percent.”
Detroit is the worst offender on our list of America’s most dangerous cities, thanks to a staggering rate of 1,220 violent crimes committed per 100,000. ”
“Girls raised without fathers are more sexually promiscuous, and more likely to end up divorced.” Wade Horn, “Why There Is No Substitute For Parents”, IMPRIMIS 26, No.6, June, 1997
70% of teen births occur to girls in single mother homes. David T. Lykken, “Reconstructing Fathers”, American Psychologist 55, 681,681, 2000
86% of American teen births are out of wedlock. Dr. David Popenoe, “The Future of Marriage In America”, Rutgers Univ., The National Marriage Project, 2007
“America has more than twice as many teenage births as other developed nations.” Isabel V.Sawhill, to House Committee on Ways and Means, Subcommittee on Human Resources, June 29, 1999
There are more than 400,000 teen births annually in the US, most of them to unmarried mothers on welfare.
National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy.
The public cost of births to teens 17 and younger is estimated at $7.6 BILLION per year. The children are more likely to be in foster care, less likely to graduate from high school, daughters are more likely to have teen births themselves, and sons are more likely to be incarcerated. Saul Hoffman, Univ. of Delaware.
70% of drop-outs, and 70% of teen suicides come from single mother homes. Wade Horn, “Why There Is No Substitute For Parents,” IMPRIMIS 26, N0. 6, June 1997
70% of runaways, 70% of juvenile delinquents, and 70% of Child murderers, come from single mother homes. Richard E. Redding, “It’s Really About Sex”, Duke Univ. Journal of Gender Law and Policy, Jan.1, 2008
63% of all youth suicides,
70% of all teen pregnancies,
71% of all adolescent chemical/substance abusers,
80% of all prison inmates, and
90% of all homeless and runaway children, came from single mother homes.
Bob Ray Sanders, “Hey Y’all, Let’s Fill The Hall (Of Fame), Ft. Worth Star Telegram, Oct.28,2007
Mona Charen, “More Good News Than Bad?”, Washington Times, Mar.16, 2001 (citing Bill Bennett, “The Index of Leading Cultural Indicators: American society at the end of the 20th Century., New York, Broadway Books, 1994)
Children brought up in single mother homes are:
5 times more likely to commit suicide,
9 times more likely to drop out of high school,
10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances,
14 times more likely to commit rape,
20 times more likely to end up in prison,
32 times more likely to run away from home.
Chuck Eddy, “The Daddy Shady Show”, Village Voice, Dec. 31, 2002
600,000 out of wedlock births in 1979. Patrick Fagan and William H.G.Fitzgerald, “Why Serious Welfare Reform Must Include Serious Adoption Reform. Heritage Foundation Reports, July 27, 1995
In 2003, there were 1.5 Million unwed births, and less than 1% were put up for adoption. Fagan and Fitzgerald (above)
Less than 1% of children born to never married women were placed for adoption from 1989 to 1995. U.S. DHHS, Child Welfare Information Gateway, “Voluntary Relinquishment For Adoption, Numbers and trends, 2005
Only 4% of college graduates have illegitimate children, and only 16% of college graduates get divorced, compared to 46% of high school dropouts, who marry in smaller numbers to begin with. Dr. David Popenoe, “The Future Of Marriage In America; “The Frayed Knot – Marriage in America”, The Economist, May 26, 2007
50% of single mothers are below the poverty line, their children are 6 times more likely to be in poverty than children with married parents. Chuck Colson, “How Shall We Live”, Tyndale House.
85% of homeless families are single mother families. Barry H. Waldman and Stephen P. Perlman, “Homeless Children With Disabilities, “ The Exceptional Parent, June 1, 2008 (American Academy of Developmental Medicine and Dentistry
We can no longer afford the massive waste of funds to reward the bad women for the destruction of our children and our economy. As we see the funding disappear before our very eyes for this grand experiment in turning our voters into dependency voters we see the many un-Constitutional mechanisms used to remove fathers and destroy children are being turned upon women.
We will now begin to see laws that no longer reward irresponsible birthing. We will begin to see welfare models change from single mother advocacy to a dual bio-parent advocacy. Of course, the liberal feminist element will work at derailing this and sending us down very expensive dead end directions with ‘father-like’ two adult households where lesbian lovers and drug dealing boyfriends and paying johns become the temporary definition of ‘two parent’ households. But, as forced by economy, we will be pushed back to the most efficient, most stable, and most safe household of all time, a two bio-parent, married man and woman home. We will then return to raising strong and productive citizens, both men and women. We no longer have the cash to subsidize anything else. The liberals may continue to try to expand the destruction of the traditional family, but in times of trial and struggle, humanity always returns to the most efficient of lifestyles, a two biological parent household.