A Letter That Helped Stop a National Ad Campaign
(The content is as applicable today as it was in 2004)
Stan Rains wrote a letter to Dominos Pizza concerning its apparent sponsorship of a billboard contest for children which constitutes State Sponsored Parental Alienation Syndrome. It is with special permission from Mr. Rains that we publish it here on the Anti-Peonage Act Website:
From: “Stan Rains”
Subject: Dominoes Pizza Parental Alienation Ad Campaign
Date: Sun, 26 Sep 2004 16:02:27 -0500
Dear Sad, Sick, Destroyers of Children.
I am writing you in reference to your web site http://www.paykids.com/ContestRules.asp . On this page, you describe a contest rewarding children who can make their non-custodial father look the most hated and despicable. What are you trying to do to all of those children? That is a hate crime against the children first and their non-custodial parent second.
I have never and hope to never see again any campaign that would ask any child to find ways to make their parent appear as a criminal monster in a drawing. Do you do that to children of drug dealers, mass murderers? Would you have children draw pictures of how terrible their alienating, hateful, malicious, child-destroying mother looks to them when she is teaching them to hate their father?
The father is half the child. If you teach the child to hate either parent for any reason, you teach the child to hate himself.
Did you know that women file 85 % of the divorces, knowing the devastation this will cause on their children? The causes women filing divorce in this country for abuse and adultery are only present in about 6.5% of divorce at most. Bad hair causes more women to file than abuse or unfaithfulness by the men.
Do you know that child support paying military personnel killed in action are listed on the States’ and Federal Government’s Deadbeat Lists. Death is not an option when it comes to paying child support. Getting killed in Combat now gets heroes labeled “Deadbeat”. Now the children not only do not have a father, but their war hero dad is now a low-life scum deadbeat because he is dead. And you wish to memorialize their dad dad with an ugly drawing on a billboard labeling him deadbeat, criminal and a loser?
Did you know that men who become ill or disabled cannot get child support reduced and then make the deadbeat list?
Did you know that reservists and National Guardsmen often times make less on active duty than they owe in Child support? They do not have the time or money to request reductions before combat duty and come home deadbeat in amounts that they cannot catch up on. They come home and are arrested for serving this nation in war.
Did you know that a hostage held in Lebanon for years was arrested when he came home on child support arrearages while he was a political hostage? The arrest took place in Chicago.
Did you know child support paying fathers who died in 9/11 are on the deadbeat dad lists? Did you know preachers who die of cancer (Rev. Dennis Austin) are now listed as deadbeats? Death is not an option. Neither is illness, injury, or any other just cause. Is that the plight of a married father with children of that marriage? No. Then why crucify innocent men for the insanity, even temporary, of a wife who finds a hotter lover, or wants to spend more on make-up? Did you know that is exactly what is happening to more and more women?
Did you know that by all studies most of the so called Deadbeat fathers are actually beat down dead by family court systems assessing excessively high child support and failing to enforce visitation with their children after the children were kidnapped by a flighty mother? Most in arrearages are men from lower income categories. The millionaire deadbeat is urban myth 99.99 % of the time. There just aren’t enough millionaires, deadbeat or not to fill that claim. So you have a man struggling to make ends meet and marginally employable and you wish to further disenfranchise and criminalize him, then heap indignity upon him by having his children make him look like a monster?
Did you know that the tax advantages and tax free income, social services denied to men but provided to women, only, actually encourage divorce, the number one destroyer of today’s children?
Did you know that in tax advantages alone, a woman leaving a man realizes an immediate $3,000. + a year advantage?
Did you also know that she will have immediate access to all types of social services immediately upon divorce that are not accessible to any man?
Have you ever done the math on child support? If a man is making even as high as $40,000/year gross income. He will be required to pay at least 20 % before taxes (20% of gross income). His I.R.S. tax will be 28% of his gross income (20 + 28 = 48%). Then he will be required to pay Social Security Tax of 15.3 of his gross (20% + 28% + 15.3% = 63.3%). And then there is State Income tax of about 5% (63.3%+5% =68.3% of his gross income). If he is or was self-employed, then he has upwards of 6-8% more of his gross he must pay out in taxes, which I will ignore at this point.
Now we multiply the $40,000 times 68.3% and get $27,320. Now we take $40,000. and subtract the $27,320 and we get what is left, $12,680. or 31.7% of his income is what he superficially gets to keep to actually live on. This is well below poverty level. This does not take into account the requirement for a man who has gone from middle class to below poverty level to also provide health insurance for his child ($50-$100/mo at the least) and to pay for his wife’s attorney, any social workers and psychologist ($200-400/mo). Then, the father, if his wife allows him to see his children, must care for and entertain his children when he does have them at the whims and fancy of the abandoning wife. His wife, whom the vast majority of the time abandoned the home and kidnapped the children for no reason other than chasing a pipe dream now claims head of household, is eligible for multiples of services ranging from welfare, to free legal counsel as a reward for divorcing a man who was innocent. I will be glad to provide you with the links to various federal studies documenting these statements with peer-reviewed reports.
Child support for this $40,000/year man was not just $8,000. The ex got the money tax-free. Tax-free means she got an amount to spend that would take anyone else upwards of $12,000. a year in gross to enjoy. And that is what that cost the man, $12,000. because he paid the taxes. He also paid the taxes on the health care, and on the payments to her lawyer, psychologist, etc. were assessed by the court as child support. For a divorce he did not deserve, or want he is not allowed to live .
If the man gets behind, he can loose professional licenses (Tim Emerson, M.D. of San Angelo, TX.), drivers licenses, even hunting and fishing licenses so he is criminalized if he catches his own food since he is not allowed money to eat.
Also, have you ever researched the destruction of a child and their adulthood from having been aggressively alienated from a parent as a child? There are numerous web sites dealing with this issue, including groups of adults struggling with the aftermath of having been alienated from a loving parent.
Child support is regularly used as a tool by unethical judges to imprison or to chase off a loving and dedicated father insisting on being a part of his child’s life. That is not even disputed by Michigan’s A.G. And, you wish to be a part of such fraud. I would imagine whatever feminist sold you on this idea did not have you do any real or meaningful study on this course of action before taking it. This tragedy of stolen children and fraudulent child support awards has reached the levels that every family has been hit. Every family has lost access to at least one child as a result of Parental Alienation. And you wish to encourage this destruction.
The greatest classification of suicide in the 18-35 age group is men who have lost their family, home, income, savings, livelihood and respect for nothing they did wrong. We loose more men to this cause in two years than we did in two decades in Vietnam.
Have you looked into how child support is actually assessed and the formula that is used? Of course not. You are not really concerned about children but on jumping on a PC band wagon to sell Pizza. What extreme feminist sold you on this very destructive ad campaign? Every family has lost access to at least one child from Parental Alienation. And you want to formalize and praise further destruction of these children.
I will boycott your local stores until such time as you publicly apologize for intentionally encouraging custodial parents to brainwash their children against struggling non-custodial parents. I will make copies of your PayKids.com website and pass them out to local veterans groups, pta groups, and in front of your stores with maps to your competitions stores and even your competitions menu’s and discount coupons where I can find them. Why didn’t you offer second jobs to struggling dad that allowed them time off when the get their kids. Or a contest where children draw the picture of the monster, criminal judge that keeps them from seeing and being with their loving father. Let’s see you put that on a billboard.
By the way, my child was molested by my ex’s nephew at the age of 2. My ex moved into the convicted molesters home. He was also convicted of molesting three other little girls. I have been bankrupted in the last ten years attempting to protect my child. The courts have used child support as a tool to silence my objection to my child being in my wife’s custody and to my demanding that at the very least the courts enforce it’s own visitation orders. After knowingly destroying my business and declaring me indigent on his own accord, the judge in our case then, knowing I was now unemployed, at his orders, then doubled the child support payments. This was a means to make me go away and quite attempting to actually expect my child to be protected. These statements are a matter of public record.
If you do not remove this ad campaign page from your website and drop this campaign teaching children to hate their fathers and themselves, I will make sure that I cost you as many customers as I can and I will make your really abusive campaign the most expensive and ill-advised effort your Corporation has ever made.
Stanley A. Rains, Jr.